What I Wish I Knew: An Open Letter to My First-Time Mom Self
Everything I needed to hear in those early days of motherhood
Dear Brand New Mama Me,
If you’re reading this, you’re probably running on anti-anxiety meds, snuggles, and very little sleep. You’re holding that precious baby boy and wondering if you’re doing any of this right. Let me tell you: you’re already doing an amazing job, even if it doesn’t always feel that way.
Here are a few things I wish I could have told you back then:
1. You Don’t Have to Be Perfect
There’s no rulebook, no “right” way to do motherhood. You’ll make mistakes, you’ll learn, and that’s okay. Your love is what matters most—and your baby feels it.
2. Ask for and Accept Help
You don’t need to prove your strength by doing it all alone. Let people help, let them bring food, hold the baby, fold laundry. You’re allowed to rest.
3. Take Care of Yourself Too
You matter. Your mental health, your sleep, your happiness—they’re important. Taking time for yourself isn’t selfish; it makes you a better mom.
4. The Hard Days Will Pass
The sleepless nights feel endless, but they won’t last forever. One day you’ll wish for just one more midnight snuggle. Try to soak in the precious moments.
5. Trust Your Gut
You know your baby better than anyone. Advice will come from every direction, but ultimately, you’ll know what’s best for your family. Trust yourself.
6. Your Body is Amazing
It created, grew, birthed & nourished an actual human! Be gentle with it—even if it doesn’t look or feel the same. Your body did something incredible. Thank it. Give it love.
7. It’s Okay to Miss Your Old Self
There will be days you crave the “before.” That doesn’t mean you love your baby any less. You’re still you, just a new version.
8. Celebrate the Little Wins
Some days, getting everyone dressed is a victory. Celebrate those moments. You’re keeping a tiny human alive—go you!
9. You Are Enough
On the days you doubt yourself most, remember: you are exactly the mom your baby needs.
If I could hug you, I would. Motherhood isn’t easy, but it is so, so worth it. You’re doing better than you think, and future you is so proud.
With love and wisdom (and maybe a little more sleep),
Your Future Self
